100 degrees centigrade. Boiling point. How do you get there from 99 degrees? Just a little more.
It takes only one degree from 99 degrees to reach the boiling point. At that point, everything sizzles.
What are the extra truths and extra efforts you need to increase friendship in marriage? (fun, enjoyment, companionship, etc)
Malcom Gladwell, in his book The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference, tells us ….. tipping point are “the levels at which the momentum for change becomes unstoppable.” Gladwell defines a tipping point as: “the moment of critical mass, the threshold, the boiling point.
Song 2:15 Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.
Many times it is the little things that we do and we don’t do that makes the difference in our marriage. In business, we are expected to meet the expectations of our clients thus bringing customer satisfaction. But if we give or do things beyond the normal expectations, then this will bring customer WOW! Thus, resulting in customer loyalty.
How about in marriage? What are the little efforts that we can do to increase the heat (to 100 degrees maybe?):
Here’s a few examples:
1. Make time for emotional connection.
Your spouse is more important than your children (in the food chain).
Invest a little time each day just thinking about your spouse. Pour into your marriage the same as you pour into other areas of your life you are passionate about.
2. Hang out together.
Plan an outing that the two of you will enjoy as a couple. Plan a date and go some place fun. Stay up late and watch an old movie together. Go to a concert.
Run errands together on Saturdays, meet for a lunch date once in a while, even just take a walk around the block. What Shirley and I do (for the past 19 years) is to do grocery together. I get to choose my junk food.
This is key. Don’t take everything so seriously. The world would say being married with the same spouse for almost 20 years could be drab. But laughter can put spice and sparks in marriage.
Prov. 17:22 A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
4. Show affection.
Hold hands, kiss passionately (not just smack), hug more than just before you walk out the door, snuggle on the couch. Studies show that men who kiss their wives everyday before going to work live five years longer than those who don’t. Go and add 5 years to your life.
5. Get Away From it All
Get out, put all your cares away for a few hours, and enjoy each other. Plan your dream vacation.
How about you? How can you add an extra degree to your marriage?